In a situation where a man gaslights a woman with respect to sexuality, he would demand that the woman should do as he wants 

activating sexuality and he would continuously remind her that she has problems for not doing as he wishes. 

The man could request and teach the woman with respect to activating sexuality in normal situations when the woman does not know 

much about it. It is considered to be a case of sex-lighting when the man has a clear intention of manipulating the woman for his own 

sexual pleasure. 

In case of sex-lighting, the man usually does more than just demanding and he may criticize, threat, and conciliate the woman to make 

the woman get involved in some unusual sexual actions. It is not to say that unusual sexual actions are wrong in themselves. 

When a couple engage themselves in unusual or usual sex only for the man's sexual pleasure, both the man and the woman are damaged greatly. It is crucial for body parties to accurately understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality, and then activate sexuality to generate positive xes energy. 

Men's using sex-lighting to women necessarily results from men's psychological disorders and sexual dysfunctions. These men pursue their own sexual pleasure at all costs and women must understand clearly that activating sexuality has nothing to do with love. Men who use sex-lighting to the woman partner do not even have the idea of love in their mind and their psychology is not operating in normal ways. They are simply trying to take advantage of women for their own sexual pleasure. 

In normal relationships, men do not easily talk about their sexual fantasies to women or try some unusual sexual actions. Men are also afraid of being misunderstood about their sexual preferences and normal men do not view women they love as means for achieving sexual pleasure. Men's pure passion makes men do their best for women and try to see women being happy. Men's pure love leads men to do their best to protect their women. 

Normal men would hesitate trying things they like with women in having sex. They take a long time to talk about their ideas and easily 

give up when women refuse them. This is only natural not only in having sex but also in daily life. We must compromise when our wish is different form the partner's wish. 

Men getting angry for not complying with them or pressing women to do as they want indicates they do not have respect for women. They may say that women must do as men want as a sign of love and such and such ways of having sex are also pleasurable for women. They are committing sex crimes by forcing women to do what they don't want from the perspective of the operation of mimind and xesmind 

since women are as negatively affected as in the case of sexual offense in such such situations. 

Some women may fall for men's manipulative sex-lighting by complying with men's demand for two reasons. 

Firstly, women tend to perceive having sex as a means of love. That is, many women have sex not for sexual pleasure but for achieving 

and confirming love. Women feel that they have to comply with men for having sex to maintain their love. In this process, women may develop wounds as severe as wounds caused by sexual offense. As women's wounds grow more and more, they become to be more and more dependent on men and begin to do whatever they are told to do by men. 

Secondly, women are designed to accept familiar sexual information. When they are exposed to unfamiliar sexual actions, they may feel awkward and uncomfortable. However, as they get used to whatever sexual actions, they get used to them and feel pleasure in their body and mind. These women would happily have sex with another man in front of their partner they love if the partner wants it. They may feel pleasure and happiness in the conscious but they generate wounds in the unconscious in this process. 

This mechanism explains how and why women fall for men's manipulative sex-lighting. Men use sex-lighting for their own sexual pleasure and women are taken advantage of by men perceiving it as love and developing dependency on men. Both men's and women's body, 

mind, and sexuality are destroyed in this process, but they may feel pleasure in the conscious. 

When their body, mind, and sexuality are destroyed, they develop psychological disorders and physical illnesses such as somatization and sexual dysfunctions. They end up living a destructive life, and in some cases, they can actually die from serious diseases. 

Of course, men who are engaged in sex-lighting would not even be interested in the adverse affects of their actions since they are 

immersed into pursuing sexual pleasure. Please, remember that men who use sex-lighting for sexual pleasure are destroying their life as wells the partner's life.