1. The cause of sex-lighting

It was mentioned in Part 1 of sex-lighting that the root cause of men's use of sex-lighting is men's desire to achieve sexual pleasure.  

Men may conciliate women for having fun together but women do not really need any technique or method to feel love and happiness through having sex. Women's pursuing sexual pleasure indicates that wound in mimind are being activated making women lose feelings in mimind. 

Women can have sexual pleasure but they don't have to pursue sexual pleasure per se.

Then, why would men who use sex-lighting need more than regular patterns and methods of sex? It is because these men cannot achieve sexual pleasure through regular and ordinary sex. They may believe that regular sex is dull and boring and even blame women partners, but it is men themselves who are the problem of sex being dull and boring.

Sexuality exists in human beings to generate passion, vitality, love, and happiness. This is possible by generating xes energy in xesmind. Men 

who do not understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality only focus on the sense of pleasure recognized in their body and in the conscious. As a result, distorted concepts of sexuality has become to be accepted by many people.  

In addition, when men cannot heal stress in healthy ways, they may pursue sexual pleasure more and more to relieve stress. Then, they develop stronger sexual desire than normal men and activating sexuality in this condition damages men's body and mind by generating negative xes 

energy in xesmind.  

Stress keeps being activated and sexual dysfunction develops, but men may not realize that they have problems. They just think that the usual 

way of having sex sex is dull and boring, or the woman partner is not good enough. Then, they begin to want stronger stimulation and new sexual actions. They may also look for women who look sexually attractive and give them strong responses. To put it in another way, these men don't 

have the ability to perform in having sex without special or new conditions and environments.  

Men sometimes check for their sex ability with their sexual functions in masturbation, but masturbation has a complete different operational mechanism from that of the actual sex with the partner. Many men who have sexual dysfunctions have no problem in masturbation. 

Masturbation cannot be the reference point of men's sexual function.  

As men lose sex ability more and more, their sexual desire grows exponentially. The term 'desire' is the energy for wanting what you don't have by definition. People think that their sexual desire can be satisfied by having sex a lot or by have having more sensational sex with sexually attractive women, but sexual desire is manifested only when they don't have sex ability, so you cannot be satisfied no matter how often and how sensationally you have sex.  

2. The process of sex-lighting and collapse

As men use sex-lighting pursuing their own sexual pleasure, they necessarily develop psychological disorder by the activation of continuous and intense stress. As their condition progresses, they may develop severe psychological disorders such as intermittent-explosive disorder destroying 

their body and mind. They automatically develop sexual dysfunctions and may even experience expedited aging, cancer, heart attack, or coition 

death by generating negative xes  energy in xesmind.

Young men may not experience visible deterioration of their body and mind yet, but it is not uncommon to see men in their 40s and 50s feeling weak and developing serious diseases or even meeting with sudden death. They may look normal on the surface, but are very likely to have been activating sexuality in distorted ways including sex-lighting.

3. What to do when your partner is a man who uses sex-lighting to you. 

When a woman has a boy friend who uses sex-lighting to her, she must sever the relationship with him and leave him right away. Men who 

use sex-lighting don't have the concept of love at all. The woman also has to understand that she has accumulated many wounds in the process 

of being gas-lighted with respect to sexuality by the boy friend, and she may have developed dependency on him.

The woman is in a more serious situation when she has been gas-lighted with respect to sexuality by the husband. Most men do not perceive 

their wives as sexual objects, so they usually choose other women even if the attempt sex-lighting. The husband using sex-lighting to the wife is considered as the worst situation, and it also indicates that the wife has responded sexually to be perceived as a sexual object by the husband.  

Even experts on sexuality do not understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality and guide couples to deal with sexual problems 

on the surface. They may even advise the wife to be actively engaged in activating sexuality in distorted ways and satisfy the husband's sexual 

desire. This is equivalent to blaming the wife for the husband's sex-lighting.  

Couples have the right to activate sexuality and enjoy having sex as they want. All adults have the right to activate sexuality to generate strong energy for passion, vitality, love, and happiness. The problem occurs when we generate negative xes energy in xesmind instead of positive xes 

energy. it is better for couples to stay sexless than to generate negative xes energy.

It is essential to have the right standard for activating sexuality. Pleasure recognized in the conscious can be a good thing but it is not the right standard for activating sexuality.