Men's using sex-lighting to women is caused by men's sexual desire and men who us sex-lighting do not love or respect women partners. Then, why would women who are likely to feel uncomfortable about being gas-lighted with respect to sexuality choose to comply with men's demand?

Women who have healthy psychology would refuse to take sexual actions they don't like. In normal relationships, men usually try to comply with women by being nice and sweet and gently try to persuade women for having sex in the way they want. 

Sex-lighting cannot be used for women who have healthy psychology. Women who become victims of sex-lighting are likely to have the tendency for dependency on men due to the operation of wounds in mimind.  

There can be two types of women being taken advantage of by sex-lighting.

The first type is when women who already have wounds in mimind start a romantic relationship as a means to treat wounds. Women are designed to seek attention and consolation when they have wounds. When wounds are accumulated without being treated for a prolonged period of time, women may seek attention and consolation involving the activation of sexuality. Such women try hard to enhance their sexual attractiveness or lose self-respect for not looking sexually attractive.

Women usually think that they need a partner who loves they to have happiness. They are not told that they can generate happiness and sexual happiness on their own. They think that the partner will give them happiness and they cannot be happy without the partner, which makes them comply with their partner and develop dependency on the partner.  

Women who have many wounds become easy targets of sex-lighting. All men have to do is to pretend to give them love and attention and demand women to comply with men for activating sexuality.  

The second type is when women who have healthy and normal psychology are approached by men who pretend to love her and destroy women's body, mind, and sexuality. Men who have sexual desire and pursue sexual pleasure as the top priority destroy themselves as well as women partners. These men may look nice and sweet at first and lead women to accumulate wounds until women eventually develop dependency and comply with men's demand with respect to sexuality.  

Women are in danger of being used for sex-lighting when they don't have true sex ability. Even women with healthy and normal psychology can be targets of sex-lighting when they don't understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality and don't have the ability to judge men's behavior and discern men who have selfish purposes. 

Women can build true sex ability through Sex Ability Training for Women and generate happiness and sexual happiness on their own. Women who have true sex ability can discern men who approach women with selfish purposes. They can easily see why and how men act this way and that way as if men would easily see other men's intention behind their actions.

Women who have true sex ability have no reason to develop dependency on men in romantic relationships and they have the sense of self-respect and unique charm. They are not usually approached by men who have selfish purposes and they are not destroyed even if they are. 

Women who build true sex ability can free themselves from their husband's sex-lighting. The husband's sex-lighting is much more serious than boyfriend's sex-lighting. Men who use sex-lighting to their wife are likely to have an advanced condition of psychological disorder such as intermittent explosive disorder.  

Women who have been under the influence of the husband's sex-lighting are likely to have developed quite a high level of dependency on the husband. These women have difficulty to free themselves from their husband psychologically and tend to stay with the husband complying with his absurd demands. 

If women who are under the influence of sex-lighting decide to free themselves from sex-lighting, they necessarily treat their condition of post traumatic stress and build true sex ability. Any attempt to get themselves  out of men's control without building true sex ability will result in failure or other dire consequences.  

Men cannot easily approach women who have true sex ability even if they want to.

Some women are easier targets of dating abuse, sex-lighting, or other forms of gas-lighting than others because they have more wounds. Of course, it is not their fault at all. Distorted concepts of sexuality destroy both men and women and cause many social problems.Anyone can become a victim or a perpetrator. The operation of xesmind is beyond our conscious recognition and rational reasoning.Sexual pleasure itself is not anything wrong and sexuality itself cannot be right or wrong by nature. Distorted activation of sexuality generates negative xes energy and the right activation generates positive xes energy that is delivered to mimind to generate passion, vitality, love, and happiness.